I thought I'd throw up another recent layout, inspired by two short conversations I had with my niece. I don't think I ever had a chance to tell Susan (mother of niece) about the conversation and I thought she might like to see it as a fellow scrapbooker. It's actually not my most favorite design ever, but the picture is super cute and the story was worth writing down. I thought our kids (hypothetical) would someday like to read about their older cousin basically begging for their existence, and about me trying to deflect for the time being.
Every childless couple expects a little pressure to have kids at family Christmas gatherings, but not usually from their five-year-old niece. But you’re not just any five- year-old, now are you?
Abby: Aunt Sara, are you and Uncle Matt ever going to have kids?
Aunt Sara: Yep, someday.
Abby: Because I love cousins.
Aunt Sara: Oh yeah?
Abby: And, we have a few leaves on the family tree that need to be filled in.
The next morning….
Abby: You know, you look like a momma.
Aunt Sara: Do I just look like a momma now, or have I always looked like a momma?
Abby: A little bit…Why don’t you have kids?
Aunt Sara: Well, Uncle Matt wants to get a new job so he can be home more to help take care of the baby.
Abby: Well, we can always come and help you take care of the baby, just like you help momma take care of us.
Such a sweet one, that girl. Persistent, yet oh so sweet.
How do you explain to a child why you don't have kids yet? Matt and I were talking about this last week. We think that when you're a kid, you can't imagine adults not having kids. It's kind of unfathomable. It's like, "Why don't you have kids? Can't you see how great I am? I know you like me, so why don't you want a kid like me around? And if you don't have a kid like me to take care of, what do you do?"
I tried to give her a good explanation, and while the explanation is partially true, adult reality is always a bit more multi-layered. Maybe the most appropriate answer to the proverbial "why" question should have just been "because". That's probably closest to the truth. Just because. I realized during the conversation that at five years old, she is probably just starting to see us as real adults. I'm not sure we entirely give off that impression. And she was recently introduced to her new baby sister, so maybe she had a touch of baby fever. She was just hoping it would rub off a little.
I have to admit the part of me that is exhausted after juggling two jobs sometimes daydreams about being a stay at home mom so I can craft all day. But I've spent enough time seeing my sister-in-law put in more than a full day's work with the girls to realize that's nothing but a pipedream. So from now on, until we get to that point, it's just "because".
And just further proof that I'm a craft addict at this point, aren't these the coolest embroidery patterns you've ever seen? So many possibilities. Makes me wanna embroider, but need to resist!