Do you ever know what you are getting into when you get married?
I've been trying to remember what it was like to be 22, to be getting married. I was definitely thinking that I loved him and wanted to be with him forever. We were so young, but we'd already been a couple for 7 years so it felt like it was about time already.
Aside from the happiness, I had been out of college for a year, and so I was restless, having to hang around Kalamazoo until Matt was done with school. I was ready to move away and live out a big dream. Any big dream. At the time, Matt couldn't imagine moving away from Michigan. If I worried about anything when we got married, that was it.
Be careful what you wish for? That's what they say, right?
Friday was our 5th anniverary. Over our anniversary dinner, we tried to recall how we had spent each anniverary. You have to write this stuff down if you want to remember it! We couldn't recall all the details of every anniversary, but something became apparant when we listed off where we'd celebrated each anniversary...
Year 1: Up North Michigan, right before Matt left for Oklahoma
Year 2: Chicago
Year 3: Connecticut (spent in a hotel in Hartford because I was living there during the week and he was traveling there on business)
Year 4: Massachusetts
Year 5: Massachusetts, again
Two years in a row in the same state. Can it be that we've actually settled after 5 years and 5 states? It's hard to tell. Maybe we're just taking a breather, until the wind changes.
The biggest thing marriage has taught me is to live each day as it comes. I still think quite a bit about what the future will hold, but I don't worry so much now as I wonder. I have faith in my guy. He took me farther in life than I ever dreamed.
We're looking a little crazed, having made it to dinner and back through torrential rains. Walking from the car to the restaurant, I stepped (in my dress shoes) in a puddle halfway up my calf. Quite a shock. When we got to the restaurant, I immediately went to the bathroom and put my shoes under the tap to wash out the silt. It was a classy moment. I was just glad I wasn't wearing pants, so I could eat dinner having toweled off my legs. One thing's for sure, our life together is an adventure.
Here's to five more. I wonder where they'll take us.